Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Forever Friends

I know I've been absent for a little bit...but I needed to take some time to work on a couple of things in my life. Nothing huge or life changing so to speak, but things that needed to be prioritized and realigned.

One of the areas on the top of the list is addressing those things that I have a true passion for...things I enjoy doing, that make me happy, and therefore, putting away or diminishing the things and people that were causing issues or negative energy. I'll blog more about that in a later post. But, here I want to express one key, top priority outside of my friendships. With Facebook, I, as have many, have reconnected with people in my life that I had lost touch with over the years and some that I had forgotten. I found myself remembering times of laughter and joy and experiences of fun and adventure. Friends that were with me during those crazy teenage years we all go through that are filled with wonder, angst, confusion, heartbreak, fear, and change. These are friends that you carry with you and no matter what are friends for life!

Luckily I recently had drinks with my closest girlfriends from high school. Six of the greatest ladies on the planet and true friends that will always be a part of my life and hold a special place in my heart. Ladies that we can pick up exactly where we left off, no matter how long its been since we had actually been in the same room together! These are women of strength, poise, grace, humor, professionalism, integrity, faith and commitment. And, the best part, is they have always been that way...they were the best friends a girl could have had in high school and I can't remember a moment when any of them were not by my side. I only hope that they can say the same for me. I value each of them and truly respect them for who they are...

Our get together was so much fun...and even though the last time we were all together in the same room was over 10 years ago, it was as if we had never left each others' side. One of our merry band of "sistas" could not be there physically that night and she was missed, but we promised to make sure we coordinated our schedules to ensure she can be there next time. These ladies are truly remarkable. We will have our 30th High School Reunion this September and I can't wait...we were a very close knit group...I'm so looking forward to seeing everyone, reminiscing, and partying like it's 1983! Friendships that endure the test of time are a treasure and remind us of what life is all about. So, I'm embracing the positive, reconnecting with old friends, making time for the important things, and putting away those people and things that were pushing me down.

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

It Has Come Around

You know the saying - What goes around, comes around - right? Well, how often do you actually get to see it or find out that it has happened? It's one of those sayings we typically use to help us cope with the negative, and sometimes reprehensible actions of others. But, rarely do we ever witness or hear that some form of "justice" has been served. All I can say is that after many, many years of making the statement or hearing others proclaim what goes around, comes around, and waiting for some evidence that it is true...I have finally seen it happen. And quite frankly, I'm satisfied that it happened to this particular person. A true hypocrite. Someone who always believes they are superior and the smartest person in the room. Someone who takes pleasure in belittling and intimidating others. Someone who does not value others or their contributions. So, yes, I am satisfied--not happy, not thrilled, not excited - just satisfied. You must put into the world that which you want and expect to get back. You cannot constantly put negativity out and expect that you only get positivity returned, or that you won't be adversely affected. Now I'm sure you are wondering what actually did "come around"? Well, the truth is that customers have left or refused to continue relationships; business partners have sought out others to provide same services; contracts won't be renewed; and the regional community of professionals are turning their backs and disassociating. After years of disrespect and beratement, everyone has had enough. Everyone is aware, and everyone is talking about it. It is happening. It has come around!! And, it will be difficult to recover without significant change...You can't continue to believe you are untouchable. However, I doubt this person will understand that this "come around" is a direct result of their behavior. I fear that they will do as they have always done and blame everyone else for their shortcomings and failures, and take absolutely no responsibility. But, even more concerning than the lack of accountability, is that there are innocent people that will be hurt and left hanging and out to dry...I just hope they can land on their feet when the final wave crashes down. So, at the end of the day, you can rest assured that what goes around, comes around--because it actually does come around!

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Decisions, decisions

Do you find that at different points in your life, just when you have settled in and thinking that all the pieces are finally in place and you are comfortable, something comes up to rattle your cage? Something to make you second guess, cause you to think that you should make a change or that there is something better...something to cause you to question if what you are doing is the right thing or if where you are is the right place. So, what do you do? Will you make the right decision?

The decisions you've made up to this point have been the right ones, have put you in a good place and probably are how and why you are faced with this new decision. If you're like me, you will start to analyze every little thing...all the things that got you to this point, and all the pros and cons of the current situation. I question whether I want to upset the apple cart and make another change. Would I be making it for the right reasons.

Well, I'll let you in on a secret...if you are asking these questions, it is most definitely time for a change. And I can honestly say, that whatever you decide, you will be better off. You will have analyzed the situation, took note of specifics, and made some sort of changes. I went through the process and I made a major change last year, and even though it was extremely scary and unsettling, it was so worth it. I was in a horrible place, but didn't really realize just how bad it was until I was no longer there. Regardless of pay, benefits, or strong co-worker relationships, being subjected and working under extreme mental distress takes its toll. During this period, there were times when I actually thought I was the issue, that I was the problem...I started to believe that I was the one who was wrong, inept, unqualified, etc. But, once I was faced with a decision that caused me to look at things more objectively, I made the decision to move on. I took the leap. I was able to clear my head--thankfully during a long needed vacation in the Bahamas--which then allowed me to open the door to a much better opportunity, three in fact, and just like that I was immediately back on track.

Today I am thriving and very happy. I am valued, appreciated, respected, and thought of as an integral team member with potential for bigger and better opportunities. I feel like I did a few years ago and have been able to let go of the self-doubt and negativity due to years of manipulation, and have a very positive outlook. I put aside the pettiness of the small minded and self-important that are simply intimidated by my skills, capabilities and work ethic.

Therefore, when faced with decisions that we think are difficult and challenging, rest assured, those are usually the ones that give us the most reward!